A GET

“…but the second husband dislikes her and writes her a get, gives it to her and sends her away from his house; or the second husband whom she married dies.”
Deuteronomy 24:3

I wish this were not true, but it is. I am divorced. In pouring over the Scriptures many times, I am much aware of the fact that the Torah does not allow for divorce, at least not for the reasons we use today. In Deuteronomy 24, the implied detail in found in the word ‘indecency’. If an indecency was found, he was able to give her a ‘get’, however, if not, he could not. But what qualified as an indecency?
Some teachers of the Torah claim that this may refer to anything a husband found displeasing in his wife. If she burnt his dinner, or had a bad hair day, he could remove her through divorce. Other teachers of Torah have a different view and taught that indecency referred only to sexual immorality of some type, or a breach in chastity.
In the book of Matthew, we read of Yeshua’s approach. Yeshua disallowed divorce except for the reason of marital unfaithfulness (Mt 5:31). He also explained in Matthew 19:8, that the reason for divorce in the Torah was based on man’s hard heart. In truth, hardness of heart is a nice way of saying there was a refusal to repent. Hardness of heart can be found in the cheater who refuses to cease or in the spouse who refuses to forgive. As we are encouraged to forgive, that leaves only one option – that which Yeshua left as the only possibility, infidelity. But please note, Yeshua was not saying that when this happens divorce is the only option. No, He encourages us to forgive even still.
Divorce is not to be permitted when it is done for the reason of marrying another person. According to Yeshua in Mark 10:11-12, when a man divorces his wife for the reason of purposefully marrying another woman, his second marriage is considered adulterous. The same is true of a woman who divorces her husband only with the intent to be with another man. This is not legitimate grounds for divorce.
But let me offer one more piece. When the two split ways, and the wife remarries, if her second husband also gives her a divorce, she is not able to come back to her first husband. She cannot have a man in between and come back to her first husband as this is not right. I say this because I have had this discussion often with my children. They have asked many times now that their mother is single again why I will not remarry her. The answer is simple. In Deuteronomy 24:4 we read that she is now defiled. “It would be detestable to Adonai, and you are not to bring about sin in the land Adonai your God is giving you as your inheritance.”

Deuteronomy 23:25 – 24:4
Deuteronomy 24:5-13